Archive for November, 2008

24
Nov
08

Okay, this is the funniest thing I’ve read since the election

There are LOADS of infertility blogs out there…. they are pretty much all written by women. 

I came across this great post written by a man (the husband of a female infertility blogger).  So fun to get a male’s perspective. 

The infertility business is one crazy world.

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24
Nov
08

good friends, they mean well

I met up with a friend over the weekend and I realized a couple of things…  #1.  this friend believes I’m unhappy and #2.  this friend feels sorry for me.   It hit me the next day after reflecting on our conversation.  She kept bringing up my infertility situation and seemed to have all the answers with regard to what I should be doing to fix my babyless situation. 

I am going to let it go, because this friend does not have a history of making hurtful remarks and I understand she is only trying to help, but I can’t deny that the conversation annoyed me.

I did speak up about how content I am with life… that I’ve stopped obsessing about having babies, and that I’ve accepted that it may not happen to me.  “I’m happy, I promise!” I don’t feel like my message sunk in. 

I realized this weekend that people project how they feel or what’s going on in their life.  I am sure if she were in my shoes, she would be unhappy and likely would want advice from others.

21
Nov
08

Friday Bullets!

This has been an emotional week for me.  Quite happy it’s Friday.  Next week is a short week and I’ll get to celebrate my birthday, Thanksgiving Day and a fun trip to LA with Pete, Ayelet and Lucy.

  • Kudos to Pete for getting his revoked Driver’s License reinstated within 1 week.  I did not think it was possible to get the DMV to resolve anything within a week, but he masterfully steered both the NJ DMV and the CA DMV to resolve his problem quickly.  Impressive!
  • I am currently working on a Blog entry about the USC vs. Stanford game last weekend.  I am still processing the experience.
  • This afternoon, I’ll be shutting down my computer early to head to the city to meet up with the fabulous pregnant Anna.  Bless her heart for agreeing to meet me at the wine bar at the ferry plaza, even though the wine bar has nothing much to offer a pregnant lady!
  • Tomorrow night, we’re getting together with great friends for a fun dinner in the city.  I feel so fortunate to have wonderful friends in my life to celebrate my birthday with me.  We’re trying a new Peruvian seafood restaurant, called La Mar.
  • The weather has been so fabulous, it is hard to believe that the Holidays are rapidly approaching.  I’d love to get all of my shopping done early, but that never seems to happen.
  • Oh YES!  My sister, Laura, and her husband, Keith have just closed on their new home in Rancho Cordova — contrats sis!  I’m really looking forward to Christmas up in Sacramento in a month or so.

Have a great weekend everyone!

15
Nov
08

Wow. someone in my shoes.

Sometimes you come across a heartfelt story that seems to speak to you and only you.

That’s what happened when I came across this blog entry.

I so relate to this woman’s current state of mind.   Similarly, I made a decision to go “on vacation” from the process called, TTC (trying to conceive).  The biggest reason was an attempt to retain my sanity.  The TTC process is completely INSANE.

Although I am “on vacation” (as my heroine of “An older version of me” is as well), I am also a prisoner of my age.  I can’t NOT go through the process no matter how cavalier I pretend to be.  There are limited monthly cycles left for me.  I just can’t break away from the “process” (peeing on sticks, counting days, spitting on fertility microscopes, testing my cervical fluid) even though I’m trying very hard to be “low key”– it is common knowledge that stress does affect fertility.

Reading her narrative was like getting a breath of fresh air – I’m not alone.  Sometimes that is enough.

14
Nov
08

This is insanity

I just read this crazy story on SF Gate.  I am flabbergasted.  The story definitely makes me scratch my head and I’m really still formulating my opinion.  Part of me thinks it’s fantasyland, not reality – who cares?  But if the emotional devotion is greater than a physical devotion…  I can see how that might affect a marriage.

Perhaps I can’t relate because I have not gotten myself into this level of technological hysteria.

Tres bizarre!

14
Nov
08

Food for thought… what do you think?

A thought occurred to me today.  I want to hear your opinion.

In light of the bad economy with many employees concerned about layoffs and job security, could the silver lining be an improved level of customer service across the board?

I filed a claim with AIG last night (fender bender, not my fault).  Today before noon, I got a call back from my rep who pleasantly informed me that my claim had been processed, all responsibility accepted and here are my next steps outlined in perfect detail. 

I cannot help but recall the last claim I filed 6 months ago (another fender bender, not my fault — I know, I know, I seem to be prone to these, but at least I have not been injured).  THEN, I processed the claim… had to follow up a few days later only to get the push back, “it’s in process.”  A couple of weeks later after the claim had been processed, I had to leave multiple messages with the person in charge of scheduling an appraisal…. and on and on.  The whole process took at least a month longer than it should have.

I have also noticed an increased level of helpfulness amongst my co-workers.  Suddenly emails are responded to promptly and requests are actually fulfilled.

I am wondering if employees in general are realizing that they need to not only do their jobs, but that they need to do their jobs well to protect from becoming dispensable.

Has anyone else noticed this trend?

14
Nov
08

Friday Bullets!

This weather confuses me!  Don’t get me wrong, I love it.  85 degrees in November?  Bring it on!  Is this Global Warming?  A late Indian Summer?  Pete makes fun of me because I am soooo focused on the weather.  I am ridiculous, bordering on obsessive.  I visit weather.com on a daily basis and seriously, the weather affects my day to day mood:  when it is cold & gray, I am unhappy – when it is warm & sunny, I am ecstatic.  Regardless, I’m looking forward to wearing my flip flops ALL WEEKEND LONG.

  • Okay, this really annoyed me: http://tinyurl.com/68enq6 –  isn’t her 5 minutes of fame over?!?!? I really wish she’d go back to her little life in Alaska and stop talking to the media.
  • I received a comment this morning that made me truly happy.  Lately, I’ve been a bit bland with my blog contributions… this comment has inspired me to write more often.  Every now and then I do have thought-provoking and insightful things to say.  In fact, this gal  does a pretty great job in the thought-provoking & insightful department in her own blog
  • Tomorrow, Pete, Barbara and I heading over to Palo Alto to catch the USC vs. Stanford football game.  This should be a great game, since Stanford shocked the world last year by beating USC who were favored to win by over 40 points!  I’ll be rooting for Stanford since I’m a local girl, but Barbara is a USC alum.  Should be fun!
  • On Sunday, I am visiting a great friend who I have not seen in WAY TOO long.  I am embarrassed to admit, my friend had a baby girl over 6 months ago and I still have not met her beautiful baby.  We are meeting at Santana Row, one of my favorite South Bay destinations.

Have a great weekend everyone!